Tony Bohrer: It is what it is … or is it?
February 21, 2013
I can't stand the saying "It is what it is." Who came up with it and why is it so popular?
To me it seems like a cop out. Sounds like, "Well, I will just put up with it."
Sounds like giving up and throwing in the towel.
For centuries there has been a saying that goes like this: "Rule of thumb is …"
Rule of thumb started out as a measurement — what many think to be a estimation of measurement when proper tools could not be used.
Now it has evolved into an idiom that is often used as a rule or principle that provides guidance to appropriate behavior. It refers to the common, the standard by which every thing else is measured.
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In other words, it is what we just come to expect. It is the …
Expected. Status quo. Mediocre. Same-old, same-old.
It kind of sounds like being stuck in a rut, and you know what they say about ruts, don't you? A rut is a grave with both ends kicked out.
How about we change the definition? How about we stop accepting things just because that's the way it ought to be? How about we come up with some new rules that will change the trajectory of our lives.
Rule No. 1: Everyone has the power to choose (greatest gift and worst gift from God).
I think everything in life begins with the power to choose. Think about it. We choose the food we eat, the clothes we wear, the music we listen to.
There are those who are reactive, who just live life by reacting to the circumstances that come their way.
And there are the people who I call proactive. They seem to always be ahead of the curve. They are the individuals who shape the future instead of the future shaping them. They are adaptive and visionary.
You have to choose.
As much as I would like to, I can't change or choose things for you. Neither can anybody else.
Rule No. 2: My attitude determines my direction.
I try to lived by this principle every day of my life.
I heard this some time ago and I have tried to keep it as one of the sayings I speak to myself: "Attitude determines direction and direction is more important than speed."
My attitude is the very attribute that determines the direction my life is going to go.
It doesn't matter how fast or slow one may go — eventually they will get to where they need to go if their attitude is right. Proper attitude points you in the proper direction.
My attitude had to be shaped by something other than my condition. Too many people allow circumstance to define their attitude thus defining their direction.
"I may not be able to change how I was born or where I may have came from, but I can sure change who I am and where I am going."
My attitude had to affect three areas of my life. These have become the ABC's of my life.
A. Who I am (ask yourself)
B. Where I am (is this where I want to be)
C. Where I am going (am I on the right path)
Attitude is equally as important as ability.
Rule No. 3: Live to make a difference
I have had to live by certain principles that have shaped how I view life. One of those principles is this: "You will never make an impact until you are committed to the collision."
I think it is safe to say that every one of us want to make a difference in life. We want to make an impact in the world we live. But before we can deal with fixing everything (and everyone) that is around us, we have to deal with us. You have to hit you head on.
We seem to have gotten this backward — we want to correct everyone around us and not deal with what may be going on in our own lives.
I found out a long time ago that God is more interested in my character than he is in my comfort. We want the comfort, the life free of challenge, but it's those very things that chip away the areas of our life that must change.
We are shaped by the struggle. Our character has to be corrected in order to lead and live the way that God intended us to live.