Senior Spotlight: Being your own mystery
Mysteries are part of our everyday life, though we may not recognize them as such when faced with them. Most people probably don’t even think of events in their daily lives as mysteries because of the way they occur. It also would depend on a person’s definition of what a mystery is. In my case, I consider something a mystery if it involves a situation with questions that need to be answered.
How many times have you heard someone say, “What is that?” “Where did that come from?” or “Why did that happen?” Those are usually everyday mysteries that don’t involve a crime but are mysteries just the same. Sometimes, we are fortunate enough to find the answers, sometimes it takes a little help, and then there are times when a mystery will remain a mystery and questions don’t get answered.
Something that seems perfectly understandable to us may be a total mystery to others, or the other way around. How one person so deeply can affect another with words alone is a part of life that always has amazed me. I have witnessed situations in which several people are in a room, and the general feeling is one of contentment, perhaps even happiness, causing some of them to smile. Into the room enters someone in a foul mood and, with one remark like, “I don’t see anything to smile about,” they destroy the entire atmosphere in the room and all the smiles disappear.
The mystery is: Why do people need to bring others into their unhappiness, to share their discontent? The question also could be why we let others influence our moods and outlook so much. Truly, the only person who controls how you feel is you. Make the choice to not let the person who is causing the discontent have any power over how you feel. Don’t make a long-term choice to resolve a short-term problem. Just as we have to decide if we are going to let a rainy day affect our attitude, we also have to decide if we are going to be the sunshine in someone’s day and spread good feelings. It is strange how we compare our moods to the weather — cloudy equals unhappy, sunny is happy, raining symbolizes depressed — but I guess it is a good way to express how we are feeling since just as the weather changes, so do our moods.
Make the choice to be a lovely beam of heartfelt sunshine and leave the gloom behind. People will wonder where you get that sparkly outlook and will have a mystery of their own to solve. Take the time to get to know people better, and maybe some of the mystery surrounding them will be resolved and you will have formed a new friendship. Keep smiling; it will make people wonder what you have been up to.
Happy birthday wishes go out to those with August birthdays, and especially to Gladys Mansfield, Dianne Beard and Ester Self.