Annie’s Mailbox: Mom worried about 16-year-old daughter |

Annie’s Mailbox: Mom worried about 16-year-old daughter

Dear Annie: I have been fighting a lot with my 16-year-old daughter, “Rebecca.”

It has escalated to the point where she moved into an apartment with her 19-year-old boyfriend, “Rick.”

I am not comfortable with the age difference and have tried to talk to her, but she just won’t listen.

I don’t know Rick very well, and I am worried about my daughter.

Rebecca comes home only to ask for money, do laundry or get a few personal items.

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When I try talking to her during those times, she throws a tantrum and storms out.

I saw a therapist about it, but that led nowhere. Taking away her car keys, phone and credit card has done nothing.

What can I do?

— Desperately Confused Mom

Dear Mom: Is Rebecca considered a legal adult in your state?

If not, you can report the situation to the police. It is a drastic step that may get her away from Rick, but it will likely estrange you completely.

Your second option is to get to know her boyfriend. Part of the problem is that Rebecca is in full-blown rebellion, and your disapproval of Rick is a compelling reason for her to stay with him.

Stop railing against the situation. Instead, invite Rick and Rebecca over for dinner. You need to find out whether he’s a good guy, and if not, help Rebecca see that for herself.

Dear Annie: “With a Grateful Heart” is exactly right: Placing a child for adoption takes courage.

I am thankful for my loving and devoted parents, siblings and large extended family. My dad was my coach, my mother baked cookies, and my sibs and I rode bikes and built forts. I attended excellent schools and earned college scholarships.

I am educated, well-employed and married to a wonderful man with whom I have four children. I am adopted and am living the American dream.

I have met my birth parents and half-siblings. They are amazing people, but encountered hardships and tragedies I never had to deal with. My birthmother gave me an immeasurable gift by putting my needs before her own.

My husband and I have already agreed that if one of our children should accidentally become pregnant, we will guide her to choose adoption.

— The Luckiest

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