Tony Bohrer: Yesterday is gone, today is what matters
September 6, 2012
Most people early in life figure out that life can be hard at times.
It doesn't matter what family you come from or what ethnic background you have some times bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people it is simply called life. The Bible say's "it rains on the just and the unjust".
What matters more than what we have to go through in life whether it is fair or not is how we respond to the situation at hand.
I have met a lot of people including myself that have allowed their pasts to dictate their futures. It is human nature to feel sorry for ourselves during the rough times in life and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that unless you never let it go.
In other words there is nothing we can do about yesterday but we can change today to make a better tomorrow. Your best is not behind you it is before you and you will never reach your best unless you leave what's behind you behind you.
I read a certain poem at almost every funeral I do because it speaks to us about what's important in life:
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning…to the end.
He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke of the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth
And now only those who love her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
The cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard;
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile…
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.
So when your eulogy is read
With your life's actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?
There is no way I can be proud of my dash if I let yesterdays problems control my present.
There are only a few things in life that matter. One of them is family and most of the time when you live in yesterday's problems your family ultimately suffers.
Please hear me today. I am not saying the hurt you felt wasn't real, I am simply saying your future is brighter than you think.
I cant change yesterday but I can be proud of today. The role we play in our career, ministry or church is replaceable. The role we play in our family is irreplaceable.
I am confident that if you give yesterday's problems to God he will show you that they were there to make you stronger for your future. He will never put anything on you that you wont be able to handle.
The struggles we go through are not there to kill us but it is a vote of confidence from God on your behalf.