Stephanie Pearce: Staying in touch
October 13, 2013
This electronic world we live in amazes me. I am in awe at how it works with email, Facebook, snapchat, texting, cellphones. There is communication everywhere and just about anywhere. When I was in high school, we didn't even have a phone, let alone a personal cellphone that you can do all of the above on. My friends all were in this town except for a pen pal, maybe. If you didn't live here, I most likely didn't know you.
Now, it's not uncommon for people to have friends across the state, country and world and stay in touch better than ever. I was amazed this spring when my daughter had a rumor started about her and within a matter of a day, people on the other side of the state were questioning her about it. It amazed me how we can affect someone in such mass quantities now and at such a high rate of speed.
Not that all of this technology is a bad thing. As long as we don't forget to use some personalization mixed in with it. I think it's awesome that people can Face Time each other so that they can not only talk but see each other, too. What a great way to stay connected to people you can't see in person much.
My daughter has friends all across the state and she uses this to stay connected quite a bit. I personally like this because she has boys that are interested in her, but most of them live far away. And when you have a teenage girl, far away is the best place for a boy to be. She still can see them, talk to them and create a friendship, but I don't have to worry about her getting home on time or where she is because she's usually right next to me while all this is taking place.
I know there are hazards as with anything with our kids. We have to monitor, have limits and hope that what we've taught them is enough to keep them safe. It's just like with anything; riding bikes, walking down the street, swimming. There are rules you need to follow to stay safe. You don't keep them from it, you teach them, monitor them and hope they remember it all.
We also have to teach them that face-to-face time also is an important part of these relationships that they are building. So, once in a while, I will take her to see these friends that live in other towns across the state. Sometimes they come here to see her, too. They may even meet up in a town in between to go to a dance. Or we may be invited to help their families with branding and spend a weekend with them.
Face to face always is important in any kind of relationship. So is a hand written letter once in a while. We live in an amazing time where we can stay in touch easier than ever, so we should use it to our advantage.