Stephanie Pearce: My best day
January 5, 2014
My daughter and I were driving down the road and she plugs in her iPhone to the radio and plays a song from her playlist. The introduction plays with a little banjo, guitar and piano. I know instantly what this song is I ask her, "You really downloaded this song?"
She replies, "Yes, it reminds me of us."
The song was "The Best Day" by Taylor Swift. I'm not a huge Taylor Swift fan, but the first time I heard that song, I secretly hoped that one day my daughter would hear it and think of us.
If you haven't heard the song, it is about a girl and how her mother is always there for her. The first verse talks about when she was 5 and being on the family farm and picking out pumpkins. It says, "I don't know why the trees change in the fall. I know you're not scared of anything at all. I don't know if Snow White's house is near or far away, but I know I've had the best day with you today." This reminds me of the times when my daughter was little and we would play in the rocks behind our house. We would have little "kingdoms" back there. Each rock formation was a different kingdom and had a different name. She had the best times up in those rocks and we made some great memories there.
The second verse is about when she is 13 and being bullied by her friends and her mother takes her to another town shopping and makes her feel special. It says, "I don’t know how long it’s gonna take to feel OK, but I know I had the best day with you today." This reminded me of some rough patches we went through with rumors going around about her and I showed her how much I loved her and how precious she was to me. I stood up for her and loved her through it.
The third verse talks about how she's grown, and looking back, she sees how her mom always has been there for her. It says "And I love you for giving me your eyes, for staying back and watching me shine. And I didn’t know if you knew, so I’m takin' this chance to say that I had the best day with you today." This brings me back to this day. This day when we are driving down the road, just her and I, when she plugged this song in for me to hear. This day when she smiled at me because my heart heard what she was saying. This day when I realized she read my mind when I secretly hoped she would think of me when she heard this song.
Sometimes I wonder if all that I do for my daughter is worth it. Sometimes I wonder if she really knows the sacrifices and the work I do for her to have the experiences she has had. Then she does something as simple as playing me a song and I know. Well, my sweet girl, I've had the best day with you today.