Annie’s Mailbox: Worrying about eating habits
March 19, 2010
Dear Annie: My son and his wife have been married 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. But I am terribly concerned about their eating habits.
I have never said anything outright, but I have often subtly tried to let them know how I feel. They eat nothing but pasta. They cook fresh vegetables, but don't insist that the kids eat them. At Christmas, the 6-year-old wasn't allowed to have a second dinner roll because it wouldn't leave room for dessert. The 2-year-old ate olives, pickles and some pie, but wouldn't touch the ham, mashed potatoes with gravy, or carrot sticks.
Our little grandchildren are often sick and on antibiotics. I can't count the number of times they have had viruses, colds and ear infections. I don't even want to go to their home because it upsets me so. What can I do?
— Worried Mother
Dear Mother: Believe it or not, your grandchildren are eating just fine. Having an extra roll or mashed potatoes with gravy is no healthier than pickles and olives and has no bearing on their colds and ear infections. A lot of adult eating disorders can be traced back to parents who turned the dinner table into a battlefield. Please trust your son and his wife to care appropriately for their children, and turn a blind eye to the food issues.
Dear Annie: Next year, I am getting married to a very supportive man with a wonderful family and am excited to become a part of that family. However, during the past couple of years, his family has made me realize how unsupportive my own is.
How do I enjoy my wedding with his wonderful family, when I don't really want my own family there?
— Drama Free is the Way To Be
Dear Drama Free: You are fortunate to have found a second family that provides the warmth and support that is lacking in your own. While you are walking down the aisle, keep that happy thought in mind. Your wedding is an opportunity to improve the lives of everyone you love. Our congratulations and best wishes.