Annie’s Mailbox: Woman afraid celibacy may discourage partner
December 15, 2009
Dear Annie: I am a 24-year-old female and a virgin because I have had a hormone deficiency since I hit puberty.
I know guys are interested in me. I have always turned them down because I never had any desire for a physical relationship. However, I talked to my doctor and am now taking hormones.
I recently met someone who interests me. If I take it to a physically intimate level, should I say anything about my inexperience? I am afraid my extended period of celibacy might make a more experienced person nervous or turned off.
— Rather Embarrassed in Minnesota
Dear Minnesota: You are young enough that your status is not an issue. Many women your age and older still are virgins. More importantly, we guarantee men are not bothered by this, and in some instances, it will have the opposite effect. Most men like to think they are your first. If you become intimate, it's OK to say you don't have prior experience.
Dear Annie: I recently lost my infant daughter. This has been a very difficult time for my family, but I want to be considerate and am starting to sit down to send out thank-you notes, but I'm not sure how.
Who should get a thank-you note? I am putting something in the local newspaper to say thank you to everyone. Do I need to send everyone a personal card? And what about Christmas cards? I always send a family photo, but the last one included our infant daughter. Is it OK to send that photograph with our cards? How do I sign them?
I want to include our daughter, but some people might not understand.
— Still Grieving
Dear Still: Anyone who cooked a meal, made a donation, sent flowers or did any other kindness should receive a thank-you note. As for the Christmas cards, it is OK to include the photograph with your infant daughter, although her name should not be part of the signature. People will understand. Our condolences on your loss.