Annie’s Mailbox: In love with wife’s daughter
March 3, 2010
Dear Annie: My wife of four years passed away rather quickly last year, and I was devastated. She was only 42. I am 49.
Her 22-year-old daughter came to live with me, and we began consoling each other. She is the spitting image of her mother. The problem is, we have fallen in love. We share the same bed now and are sexually intimate. I want to ask her to marry me, and I know she will say yes.
She is not a blood relation and has no relatives to object. Her father left her mother when she was young, and he has never been in contact. I am in love and feel like a kid again. Is this wrong?
— San Pedro
Dear San Pedro: Well, there is a huge "ick" factor. Aside from that, this girl is only 22. The loss of her mother brought you two together, but in a superficial, and likely temporary, way.
We can understand what appeals to you — she looks like Mom, she is young and vibrant and makes you feel like a teenager, and you have a loss in common. She may love you, but it could be as the father figure who has been missing from her life. If you truly love her, please give her the time, opportunity and freedom to figure it out.