Annie’s Mailbox: Couple concerned for grandchildren
November 19, 2010
Dear Annie: My son and daughter-in-law have a 14-year-old son and a well-endowed 12-year-old daughter, and the two of them behave like lovers.
They will sit crammed together in the same chair with their arms wrapped around each other, holding hands with their legs entwined.
If he goes outside, she follows. Their bodies are constantly touching each other.
The even do this at family gatherings, and their parents seem oblivious.
My granddaughter usually the instigates this behavior, but my grandson goes along with it.
My husband and I find it offensive, as does everyone else in the family. We are dreading the upcoming holidays.
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My son and his wife both work and are not in the house when these children come home from school, which makes me wonder what goes on when the kids are alone together for hours.
My husband doesn't want to say anything to our son because he fears it will cause a rift. Our daughter-in-law has never liked us and keeps her distance as much as possible. What is your opinion?
— Grandparents of Kissing Siblings
Dear Grandparents: Parents need to supervise budding adolescents because their hormones and developing bodies can get them into trouble. Someone should speak to your son.
If you are unwilling to do so, perhaps you could enlist a relative, friend or even one of the children's school counselors to suggest he pay more attention to his kids.
Dear Annie: When my wife and I were engaged, she bought a house in her name.
We married five years ago, and she still has not put my name on our home even though all of my payroll checks are deposited into our joint account from which the mortgage is paid.
I am not after her money or the house, but I wonder what I can do to feel comfortable with this situation.
We have three wonderful children, and we own two cars in both of our names, but not the mortgage. She makes more money than I do. Is this why?
Dear Confused: Have you asked your wife directly about this?
Even if your income were not helping to pay for the mortgage, you are a married couple with children and these things should be in both of your names.
Some women, out of self-protection, are reluctant to cede sole ownership of their possessions.
However, were the situation reversed, she surely would expect you to add her name to the house.
Unless your credit history makes you a risk, we suggest you discuss this with her and ask that she explain her reasoning.