Being a single parent who is dating has been a new adventure for me.
I’ve found that the mindset has to switch from “would this person be good match for me?” to “would this person be a good match for us?”
Dating a single parent is a package deal. My child is the most important thing in my life and she looks up to me, which is why I believe there should be a standard for dating a single parent.
One thing that my ex and I decided on was a set of dating rules. These rules were set up to protect our child, to make sure we are on the same page, and so there wouldn’t be any questions about what was or wasn’t going on around or in front of our child.
One of our rules is our daughter is not to meet who we were dating until after four dates. It is totally inappropriate to take your child on a first or second date.
This should be a time for you to get to know this person and to see if there is a connection. This is NOT the time to see if they get along with your child.
I also understand the urge not to wait too long to see if this person you are dating could have the potential to be a great parent. But there needs to be a connection between the two adults entering into a relationship before a child should ever be introduced.
Your child should always be your first priority. Respect your child’s feelings, if all they have ever known is daddy and mommy together this is also a new adventure for them.
Next week we will take a further look into dating a single parent. If you have any questions please email them to me at firstname.lastname@example.org