Dating these days is more complicated than ever.
With chat rooms, online dating, speed dating and dating services we have links to communication all the time, not to mention texting.
We can be in constant communication with a person we’re interested in, which can be both a blessing and bad thing. When we don’t hear back instantly from a person our minds instantly go to the negative. We are too quick to ponder what we did wrong or what is wrong with us.
One of the best pieces of advice that I was given is to treat the person that you are interested in like you would a friend of the same sex. When you take all the emotions and feelings of doubt out of your mind then you can see things from a different point of view.
For example, if you haven’t heard from one of your friends in a few days you wouldn’t freak out and wonder why they haven’t answered you. You would either wait a few more days to check in with them, or you would text or call to see if everything is ok.
If you had plans made with your friend and they had to back out, would you be upset or disappointed?
Yes, but you wouldn’t feel rejected; you would just make new plans for another day.
Dating is stressful enough without worrying about ‘why haven’t I heard from them?’
It should be about getting to know someone and seeing where things might lead. Most importantly it is about having fun.
So remember when you are getting to know someone, computers and cell phones are a means of communication, not a leash. Take it one step at a time and enjoy all these new feelings that you are experiencing.
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