Dear Annie: I am a divorced male in my mid-50s. I cannot seem to find anyone to connect with. I am a fit, intelligent, successful businessman. I can prepare a gourmet meal, clean a bathroom and change the head gasket on a 1986 Pontiac.
Most of the women my age tend to be rather fuddy-duddy. They are only interested in their grandchildren, quilting or gardening.
Younger women seem to be looking for a mate to start a family. I have no interest in that.
I keep myself active in social, theatrical and church activities. I live in a conservative community, and relocating is not an option.
It would be easy to lower my standards, but after two divorces, I would like to find a life partner.
— Alone in Casper, Wy.
Dear Casper: Seriously? Women in their 50s are only interested in quilting and grandchildren? Did you travel back in time to find them?
Such stereotyping will not endear you to any female.
Women of all ages are interested in many things, including social, theatrical and church activities, just like you.
They are sharp, smart, funny and compassionate. If you cannot locate any of them, you are looking in the wrong places.
Casper is a decent-sized city, and you may need to cast your net a little wider than your local community.
Since you have already been divorced twice, you might want to contemplate why you cannot seem to attract a compatible, appropriate partner. You sound like a nice catch.
Dear Annie: I hope you have room for one more story about stolen food.
In high school, my mother had a problem with someone taking lunches from her locker. One day, she packed a lard sandwich. Her lunch was never stolen again.
— South Williamsport, Penn.