Dear Annie: I love my wife more than when I met her 35 years ago.
We rarely disagree on anything. She shows her love in many ways — managing the household, doing things with me and for me, and providing a sterling example for our two children.
One way she chooses not to show love is through intimacy. I can’t remember the last time she initiated lovemaking. Most of the time, my advances result in rebuffs.
In bed recently, she explained that if I didn’t stop “pestering her,” she would have to relocate.
I am starting to feel like a groper. Do I need to find a way to turn off my motor?
— The Thrill is Gone
Dear Thrill: Your wife might appreciate that, but it is not the optimal choice.
Many women lose interest in sex after menopause, but a regular sex life is healthy for both men and women, and especially for a marriage.
Explain to your wife how much it would mean to you if she could make the effort to be intimate.
You also can seek the assistance of her doctor or a counselor who could hopefully get her to understand why this is so important and offer specific suggestions.
Dear Annie: This is for “Not Liking Mother in Connecticut.” There is something she can do for her disabled sister who lives with Mom.
She can call Adult Protective Services in her sister’s state. If she mentions her concerns of possible abuse, APS will send someone to evaluate the situation and speak to the sister without the mother present.
Dear Pennsylvania: We hope she is willing to do whatever is necessary to ensure that her sister is properly cared for.