Dear Annie: I was with my boyfriend for a while and became pregnant. Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage.
I had a hard time getting over the loss, and he promised to be there for me to the end. However, he has since informed me that he was sleeping with another woman during and after the pregnancy. We broke up, and I am slowly trying to get over everything. To say I am hurt is an understatement.
How do I begin to forgive when I haven’t done anything to deserve this? How do I forget the betrayal?
— Depressed in Seattle
Dear Seattle: You are suffering from two major losses. And keep in mind, pregnancy causes changes in your hormonal levels, which may still be affecting your mood, making everything more difficult. It’s no wonder you are depressed. Talk to your gynecologist about some short-term counseling, and contact Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support, Inc. (nationalshare.org) at 1-800-821-6819.
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