Mari Katherine Raftopoulos: Parental wisdom never ages


Mari Katherine Raftopoulos

Mari Katherine Raftopoulos' column appears in the Craig Daily Press and the Saturday Morning Press.

Part of growing up is realizing that you never do.

But it takes the process of growing up to establish this mindset. It takes growing up to realize that you never grow out of the need for advice from your parents.

And oftentimes, this realization comes in times of distress.

It comes in the moments that bring tears, the moments that bring weakness and the moments that bring confusion - the moments that lead you home to your parents' answers and wisdom when you are trying to get further away to find your own way, reason and answers.

In these types of moments, you realize you never grow too old for the advice of your parents.

The path or way that you have taken thus far, no matter if you're a teenager or an adult with children, has been influenced by the advice and care of your parents.

Life is not an individual journey.

In fact, it is a journey that is influenced by others along the way, but the start of this journey begins with the teachings of our parents and their guidance continues to help us prosper.

You can ask all your friends, your loved ones, a professional, a psychic, the Internet, or even an iPhone application and find that an answer is really not an answer at all.

It seems that the only ones who know the most logical answer is your parents. Even when they are thousands of miles away, a time zone away, or a heaven away, it seems as if parents know exactly what to say at the right time.

Is it because they have lived longer?

Is it because they have known you since you were born? Or is it because you are a part of them and they are a part of you?

As a child, you need your parents for different things.

You need your parents for financial support, a car, a home, and an education, to name a few. But as an adult, your needs change because the things you once needed as a child you provide for yourself and eventually for others.

Instead, you need your parents for a different type of support. The support of advice that is constant and honest, an honesty that will not always make you look your best but will instill in you a lesson for growth.

Even considering the generational gap between parents and their children, the advice from a parent never goes out of style or becomes outdated.

And it seems as this generation gets so wrapped up in the technology of text messaging, Facebooking, and Twittering, we are losing the interaction with wise advice and instead always seeking the new.

We constantly are concerned with the newest and latest updates at high-Internet speeds. And if this pattern continues, the advice of the older generation will be lost to search engines and blogs.

Although time spent away from home has helped me become more independent in my choices and beliefs, it seems that I always look for either the confirmation or advice from my parents on most of my decisions.

To some it may seem childish to seek the care and judgment of my parents as an adult, but in actuality, it is more mature to acknowledge their wisdom even when I am creating my own.

It is a humbling experience when this realization occurs, and as much as we hate to admit that our parents are right, doing so shows that their words are not forgotten.

So, I admit my parents are always right in advice ranging from relationships to school, friendships to careers, and no category is left untouched and no lesson is left untold.


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