Tony Bohrer: You love who you do loving things for


If someone were to ask you the question, "What is the opposite of love?" what would you say?

I'll bet 99 percent of people reading this would say "hate." I would like to challenge your thinking today and say that the opposite of love is not hate, but it is selfishness. Have you ever known selfish people? They always are thinking about one thing - themselves.

Love gives; it thinks of others before itself. Jesus proves this in the book of St. John 3:16. "God so loved the world He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." He thought of us before Himself. He loved us so much, He gave to us. When you love someone, it is easy to give to them, spend time with them and think of them. Most of the time, selfish people think of someone else only when they need help.

Life can be hard at times with the economy right now. It puts stress on families, marriages and individuals. With divorce at an all-time high, it is hard for me to think that the stress of the times doesn't play a big part in this problem. We are working long hours and every extra shift we can. By doing this, we put the people closest to us on the back burner.

After time, we begin to lose the feeling or spark we once had for one another. I believe love is a choice. The reason I say this is, Jesus Christ said "Love your enemies." No one in his right mind wants to love his enemy. He is telling us that who we love is our choice.

Maybe you are reading this article today, and you and your spouse have let the flame go out in your marriage. I challenge you today to choose to love your spouse. Keep this quote in your mind: "You love who you do loving things for." Do you remember when you first fell in love with your spouse? It was easy to open the door for your wife. It was easy to buy her flowers and candy. It was easy to spend hours talking with her about her day and what she was interested in. Ladies, you didn't mind overlooking his jealous habits. It was easy for you to pick up his clothes that he left in the middle of the floor. We all were busy then, but we found time to have a romantic dinner together. Why were we so in love back then? Because we thought of our spouse before ourselves. "You love who you do loving things for."

If you are in this boat, don't feel ashamed. All of us go through this. I challenge you for the next month to begin to make time for your spouse. Remember, love is a choice, and "you love who you do loving things for."


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